We all have one; or more than one. It's that place where we can get hurt, the one we seek to defend.
For some people, it's the fear of making that first phone call to a hiring manager. For someone else, it's not knowing what to say at an interview. For someone else, it's being confronted with the problem of finding a job you really want--but the effort just seems too great.
The key question is this: how much does the act of protecting the soft spot actually make it more likely you will be hurt?
It turns out that the more you angle yourself, the harder you work to protect the soft spot, and the more likely it is that you'll get hurt.
All the time and effort you put into ducking and hiding and holding and avoiding might be sending the job market a signal... the irony of your effort is that it's probably making the problem worse.
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